Even though the internet has bombarded with successful people from every angle, it’s quite common for people to give up on their hopes and dreams. People usually give up when it gets too hard or takes too long.
As we progress, we will learn, practice, and build commitment to our dreams. Generally, problems won’t disappear even for the best of us, but you can certainly prepare for them – which makes it easier to overcome your obstacles if they occur.
It doesn’t matter what industry or sector you operate within,
it’s unrealistic to expect life to be easy every day, some days will challenge
you, other days will sail by with no issues at all.
Remember marketing and selling in particular, will give you a lot of rejections, this is part of the industry, so don’t feel down or disheartened when it happens – most of the time it has nothing to do with you or anything you’ve done.
So, the next time you feel like giving in, remember that the best next quit, they simply adapt to the situation they’re in:
Here’s some reasons why people give up:
They Expect Fast Results – Unfortunately hardly anything comes quickly these days, even though we live in a digital world which has super-fast connection, things can still take a long time to develop. This will obviously depend on the level of competition you have, in areas with lots of competition its not uncommon for you to focus on long-term strategies. Remember the quicker you give up, the easier it is for your competition and rivals to win your clients and customers.
They Stop Believing in themselves – Many people simply stop believing in themselves and this happens to the best of us, people dream of a life of luxury, but even celebrities have depression and anxiety. If you ever stop believing in yourself don’t take it too heart, simply give yourself a break to re-charge your batteries and get back into the game. Sometimes a short break and be exactly what we need, it gives our bodies and mind time to recover and once you return to working you may look at your situation in a different light.
Dwell on mistakes – Regrettably we all make mistakes in life, for many mistakes can be a catalyst in driving towards success, for others they can be prone to rehashing, overthinking, fixating, obsessing, or dwelling on their mistakes for years to come. Psychology experts call it ruminating, in life you probably have many such incidents branded on your brain.
Sometimes the best method of getting over your mistakes is to simply write them down, by putting something on paper you’re telling your brain the mistake has been removed from your mind, this makes it easier to move forward in your life. Equally, another good idea is to keep your mind off the mistake during lazy periods, try filling up your schedule with productive, fun, or meaningful activities. You will be too busy to spend hours pondering on your perceived failures.
Stuck in the past – People can often feel stuck in the past for several different reasons, for example the loss of status or a job is arguably one of the most popular reasons. As humans it is not our nature to make changes that we view as harmful to our current situation. Equally we become use to our past because we’ve lived through those experiences, thus we fear the unknown which may lay ahead. Unfortunately, the only way to move forward is to forget about your past and simply try day by day to meet small goals along the way.
Feel they have something to lose – Many of use are afraid of failing or fearing we have something to lose, this is standard human nature and even the most successful people can fear failure. The fear of failing can be restraining – it can cause us to do nothing, and consequently we resist moving forward with our lives. But when we allow fear to stop our forward progress in life, we’re likely to miss some great opportunities along the way.
Never visualise success – When you think of a large goal that you want to achieve, it’s natural to think of all the problems that will come your way. We often allow these obstacles to become so big in our minds that it prevents us from moving forward. Did you know Boxing legend Muhammad Ali was always stressing the importance of seeing himself victorious long before the actual fight. If you can’t picture yourself achieving a goal, then the chances are you won’t. Spend about 10 to 15 minutes every day picturing yourself achieving each goal you set yourself.
Haven’t Tried to Right Thing – Remember for a lot of us, success doesn’t come easy, it takes time, effort and overall patience. There’s been many examples in history where failure has often led to massive success at a later date.
For example, Henry Ford worked as an
engineer under Thomas Edison, where he worked on ways to improve the then new
automobile. It was not until he was 40 that he founded the Ford Motor company,
where he introduced the Model T five years later.
Another famous person is Ray Kroc, who worked various jobs including a pianist and a travelling salesman for a milkshake maker. Then at the age of 52, he met the McDonalds brothers and proposed that their restaurant could expand across the United States.
What about Colonel Sanders, who worked a variety of odd jobs throughout his life, and watched his first attempt at a fried chicken restaurant fail at the age of 65. But Sanders used his Social Security checks to begin franchising Kentucky Fried Chicken, which became the success it is today.
If you’re trying and failing, perhaps you just haven’t tried the right thing yet. Don’t judge yourself and quit on your dreams and your goals because you’ve failed in one area. Every time you try and fail, you learn something about yourself, about life, and you gain experience that can help you to do better next time.